Three Months Old | Your Baby’s Third Month | Part Three of Six
At three months, you are really honing your skills as the parent of a newborn. Nice job. You’re doing great by the way. And, good job for reading how to do even better. Let’s dive in! So, at three months, your little one is really turning into a baby from a newborn.
As always, of course, cherish the moments that you have, but be excited about what is to come! Three months is a really great time where you might be able to take your napping baby out to (gasp!) a dinner date with a friend or partner. (Of course, you can also always call us at Maternal Instincts and schedule a night nanny by a certified newborn specialist as well.) Yet, in between any time that someone else may be giving you a parenting break, let’s see what there is to know about the third month.
All About Cries at Three Months
As you’re getting to know your wondrous baby and watching them experience the world, you will be learning so much about them every hour. You’ll get to know what different cries sound like and which rocking technique soothes them the best. After the initial months, they’ll start interacting a bit more and also spend more of their day awake.
Play time will become more prevalent and moods might also vary more drastically. Just roll with it and know that your baby is going through growth spurts and will be uncomfortable at times. Nervous system resets are a great way to soothe your baby when you don’t know why they are crying. To do this, hold your baby on your chest with their head resting on your heart to feel your heartbeat. Next, practice deep breathing and place your hand on the crown of their head. Stay here until both you and baby are calm. If your baby still isn’t calm, don’t stress. Just be patient and try a change of scenery or body position.
All About Feeding at Three Months
Around this time, your baby is about 12 weeks old and about 12 pounds (ish!). If your baby gets to 12 pounds before 12 weeks, wait until the 12 week age marker for the third stage of development in circadian rhythms. At this point, your baby’s personality is starting to show, and they might be going through a growth spurt where they are eating and sleeping more. Your baby may consume more calories at this stage, but will likely then revert to a similar level pre-growth spurt after a bit of time.
In our Baby Created Sleep Program, we implement the following (general) feeding schedules for a 12 pound baby at 12 weeks (or so):
- 6am feed 2-4 oz.
- 8am feed 2-4 oz. (then nap)
- 10am feed 2-4 oz.
- 12pm feed 2-4 oz. (then nap)
- 2pm feed 2-4 oz.
- 4pm feed 2-4 oz.
- 6pm feed 2-4 oz. (small catnap)
- 8pm feed 2-4 oz. (bedtime)
- 3:30-4am feed 2-4 oz.
The goal is that hopefully with set routines, activity in daytime and structure, that you and your baby will be sleeping in the evenings until that first early morning feed, then back to bed for a bit before starting your day again around 6am. This routine, though including an early feed, is designed to reduce hourly feedings or your baby crying for a feeding (where accidentally, you may train your baby to “work” for her food by crying for it as they get a reward from it). And, after you get this schedule in place, you can take further steps to get even longer stretches of sleep. Contact us to get into the program at any stage of your baby’s first year or later if you are having issues.
Troubleshooting at Three Months
Some common issues at three months can be troubleshooted with some simple techniques. For example, is your baby fidgety and restless during sleep? This could mean too little floor time during the day. Try more tomorrow and see how it goes. Does your baby show signs of hunger shortly after a feed? There may not be enough calories in their milk intake. For breast milk, eat more fats in your diet. For formula, read the label and make sure there is at least 20 calories per ounce. Baby waking up in the middle of the night smiling and ready to play? Too much sleep during the day could be to blame. Other questions? Join our support group or schedule a 15-minute info call to talk to one of our experts about what’s going on.
Getting ready for Month Four
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Having an overnight nanny help you a few nights a week or for the first few months can be a godsend for working parents, single parents, stressed parents, healthy parents who value sleep, parents of colicky babies, parents who need a break, parents who…. (you get the idea!). Contact us for more information or check out our blog or resources below. We look forward to hearing from you. Our number is (720) 401-7540 and we take calls 24/7 though we may need to call you back the next day during business hours.
Recommended Reading & Support Tips
Creating Sweet Dreams by Rachelle Gershkovich
Online Sleep Support Group facilitated by Maternal Instincts
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